Lily: Romantic feelings are overrated. People build their entire relationships on the assumption that they'll feel infatuated with each other forever. So when the warm fuzzy feelings fade, they start feeling denial and resentment and "what did we do wrong?" and probably eventually break up. You can't be COMMITTED to someone for the rest of your life, if that commitment depends on a FEELING. You have to accept that those feelings don't last forever, and build a foundation of trust, care, and mutual support. Falling in love isn't a BAD thing, but it's pretty unreliable.